If depression is the emotional expression of the immobilization response, then the solution is to move out of that state of defense. Porges believes it is not enough to simply remove the threat. Rather, the nervous system has to detect robust signals of safety to bring the social state back online. The best way to do that? Social connection.
For people who don’t prefer social connection, I’ve seen that exercise works well
Edit: just want to highlight that polyvagal theory, the main point behind this article, is unsubstantiated thus far
Depression has many causes:
- For once, people work too much. It exhausts the body and we feel tired.
- For two, there’s the meaninglessness of life. It’s difficult to stay motivated when nothing makes sense/there is no future.
- Thirdly, positive sexual experiences strongly cure depression. Since the dating market is largely fucked (no pun intended), well that option doesn’t exist to large parts of the population.
- Fourtly we’re socialized to hide depression. As everybody knows, the first step to solve a problem is to recognize it exists. Stigmatization of depression has held back effective treatment for way too long.
Fourtly we’re socialized to hide depression. As everybody knows, the first step to solve a problem is to recognize it exists. Stigmatization of depression has held back effective treatment for way too long.
“Hey, how’s it going?”
“Good, you?”
Honesty about our emotional state (with people who aren’t trusted friends / partners) is programmed out of us by social norms.
Start telling people the truth to that question and watch them flee
You’ll separate your friends from your good friends.
Or find out that you don’t have any true friends
I get more depression around people. I do better in the woods all by myself. My protection is to get away from people. I don’t feel lonely or alienated in solitude.
People don’t depress me, but I only have so much charge on my social battery. And yeah, seems we’re the odd ones regarding the outdoors. When people first meet me, they often comment about my running around the creeks and swamps alone.
“Aren’t you worried about (panthers, gators, bears, serial killers) ?!”
“Uh, no, they’re rare enough and I carry a gun if it comes to it.”
Great. On top of thinking me fruity, now I’m an armed fruit.
What’s wrong with responsibly owning a firearm?
I really fucking hate this culture of us Left-leaning people looking at firearm ownership as stupid; meanwhile we are surrounded by armed unhinged racists, bible-thumping violent anti-LGBTQ religious fanatics, skinhead right-wing cops and we hope those fascist protect us if Republicans riot violently.
So fucking dumb to think deterrence is bad.
All my and my wifes depression come from problems that we cannot really solve. I mean when there is a source of depression I don’t really see a solution until the source is rectified. If your depressed because your homeless and living on the streets talking with people will not get rid of it.
There is absolutely a difference between situational acute depression and generalized chronic depression — and they require different approaches
