Personally I get real mean to myself and call myself garbage. How about you?
Disengagement.
If I can physically disengage, walking away from the situation, I’d do it. If not, I’ll mentally disengage. Enough times of this, I’ll just default to it: not giving a shit because apparently, no one does.
If I must engage in it anyways, maybe I’ll return to it once I’ve calmed down. If I must do it there and then (so, no time to compose myself), I’d do minimum I can get away with.
How does one effectively mentally disengage in a situation, which stretches for a while when you cant physically go away from it?
I can’t really explain it, but it is akin to tuning it out. Basically ignoring it as it it were tinnitus.
Of course it can only be done if you can afford not to engage it (or engage in it such that you can fake engaging in it). IDK, it’s really hard to explain.
Eating junk food mostly
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Oh ya, good distinction. Mostly work stress on my end elicits that reaction. How about you, which one impacts you the most and how do you respond?
Migraines. At least it’s a good way to get away from the stressful situation, because I don’t have a choice unless I want to throw up and I will look so bad that people immediately believe me. So… thanks, migraines?
Get away and music bathe back to baseline
Do you like Huey Lewis & The News? Their early work was a little too ‘new-wave’ for my taste, but when ‘Sports’ came out in '83, I think they really came into their own – both commercially and artistically. The whole album has a clear, crisp sound, and a new sheen of consummate professionalism that really gives the songs a big boost. He’s been compared to Elvis Costello, but I think Huey has a far more bitter, cynical sense of humor. In '87, Huey released this, ‘Fore’, their most accomplished album. I think their undisputed masterpiece is ‘Hip to Be Square’, a song so catchy most people probably don’t listen to the lyrics – but they should! Because it’s not just about the pleasures of conformity, and the importance of trends, it’s also a personal statement about the band itself!
Pacing back and forth.
I eat too much then feel guilty about it, including stuff I shouldn’t eat that will make me sick.
Mental regression is the main one
500 cigarettes
- Pardon me while I step outside
It absolutely depends on the kind of stress and how much im feeling it
I get the strong urge to slam illicit opiates into my veins. But I can’t do that anymore so now I do dif breathing exercises.
Oh that’s so real. I’m like six years clean of opiates - it does get easier, but occasionally my veins get itchy when I get really stressed. Normally relationship stress.
Cannabis
Depends on the stress, if its just a tense situation I try to keep my eyes open, think about the events unfolding and the options available to deal with it, if there is a need to deal with the situation. If its anger related stress, I get a rush of energy and feel the need to get up and walk, this allows me to let the steam off. If it becomes too much to deal with, I tend to retreat back into myself, take as little place as possible, lie down if possible, my brain usually can’t stop thinking but doing something autonomously (doomscrolling or anything else) helps.
