I’ve had a colleague say that tea is “homo water”. I’m aro/ace, but most of my colleagues don’t know that. Similarly a straight colleague of mine got mocked for wearing pink (but not feminine) shoes. After some of these incidents we’ve kinda started pushing back against this nonsense by deliberately triggering these people and calling them out, which has worked so far.
Oh yeah absolutely. I’m a programmer and I see so many companies and recruiters etc use Cyber instead of Cybersecurity. It drives me absolutely mad, but these type of people drive me mad anyways. It’s probably the same crowd who ruined AI by overhyping it into its grave, the same crowd who were hyped by web 3.0 and the whole Blockchain craze, and probably all those other dumb crazes before it.
Still, this cyber thing seems to permeate everything, and I’ve heard people using the term who I otherwise respect. For me it’s a quick way to instantly become very sceptical of whatever follows the term
I update whenever it is convenient or pushed. On Android it’s not really a decision that I make, it just updates whenever it feels like it and so far I haven’t disagreed very often. On my desktop I update Arch pretty much weekly, and Windows as little as possible because it wants to restart during the updating process and will probably just pull in more spyware. My Ubuntu laptop isn’t used often, so it doesn’t get updated often either. I also sometimes use some Fedora machines, which I also don’t update too regularly.
Ubuntu and the multiple Fedora machines under my control also like to start unattended updates at the worst possible moments, which regularly interrupts my attempts to update or install stuff. I prefer to turn that shit off at every opportunity. I’d rather just get a notification that it wants me to update in the DE or terminal
I agree, but I’ve gotten less annoyed by it over the years. When I was young it really didn’t make sense to me. Money can do literally the same and is way more versatile.
However, now that I’m trying to survive this adulting thing it does start to make more sense, even if I still don’t like it. If someone gives me money, it ends up on the big pile of money that’s constantly flowing around. Give me 20 euros and it just adds 20 to the number in my bank account, which will eventually end up being used on groceries, bills, mortgage, etc. if you give someone money as a present you don’t want this. You don’t know what to give the other person ans you want them to choose something nice for themselves. But buying them part of their groceries or a part of their bills isn’t exactly a fun gift. You want to “force” them to buy something nice, something that they want to spend money on instead of need to spend money on. A gift card does this.
Then again, giving me physical money would also do this. Or asking me to say when I bought something nice with it. When people gift me money I tend to tell them where it went and that works way better than gift cards imo.
Yeah this is kinda a point. People like this colleague seem to have gotten stuck in a highschool bully mindset ans never moved on. All of their jokes are about people who are different, their whole status seems to be based on their “masculinity”. In my experience this is the largest portion of homo/transphobes here in the Netherlands. People who aren’t violent or outright hateful, but rather just pushing outdated jokes and viewpoints and then getting annoyed by all the “woke bullshit” when they get called out.
My tactic so far is to not fully attack back, but rather staying friendly while showing my disappointment with this behaviour unless it goes too far. Most of these people are otherwise decent, and in my opinion may be swayed by someone “woke” who doesn’t go “full crazy sjw” but does call them out. Making a joke about minorities is way easier of you don’t know anyone well from those groups. They’re not crazy Trump voters, so they may still be steered in the right direction