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Cake day: July 1st, 2023

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  • This may or may not help, but here’s my two cents:

    Windows was originally built to be as user-friendly as possible because its target audience are non-tech-savvy people. It then evolved into being a business OS. So security was never its first priority.

    UNIX was built for tech savvy people to do business-sensitive stuff, and required sophisticated security models. Linux was modeled after UNIX (Minix specifically), and thus inherited those same principles. It evolved to become more user friendly. But security remained a priority.

    Now, that said, both Windows and Linux are configurable. You can make Windows more secure with effort, just like you can make Linux less secure with effort (and I don’t mean simply using root all the time).

    There are diehards on both sides , and they will make excellent (or terrible) arguments for their favored OS. So you need to decide what works best for you and your use case and go with that. 😊





  • Counseling is the way to go. It’s going to take a lot of time, a lot of opening up, and being honest with your counselor and yourself. Don’t expect to see results immediately. You will get frustrated with the process. But you have to keep going.

    Also, don’t be afraid to find a new counselor if your current one isn’t working for you. And only you will know what that means. But when you find the right one, it will make a huge difference for you.

    At the same time, you may need to give your therapist multiple chances. What I mean by that is that you will not always see eye to eye with them. And that’s okay; especially if they’re challenging you to move past something big. But if you constantly feel something is off, then trust your gut. This is about what’s best for you.

    I genuinely wish you the very best of luck.









  • That was me two years ago (and some change) when I was still married. My ex wife was the one to pull the trigger, and it was the best thing she could have done for the both of us (and our kids).

    I was mad at her for a while. It was also terrifying having to move out and start over by myself, with no friends, and being a single father every other week. But I am sitting here in my house, hanging out after coming home from the gym, and simply enjoying the quiet time I have.

    Yeah, I do miss having a relationship. It would be nice if I had friends too (I lost those in the divorce). But, it’s also nice to not have anybody but myself to answer to sometimes. And if I don’t do the dishes or take out the trash, there’s nobody there to give me attitude about it; it still gets done, but on my schedule and my terms.

    All of that to say that if you’re genuinely not happy, and you feel there is nothing left to fight for, maybe leaving is not the worst thing you can do; it’s scary as fuck, but not that bad in the long run. Save your money, make your plans, and be open and honest with your partner when the time comes.