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Cake day: July 19th, 2023

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  • I understand what you say but I think you are projecting. “It was hurtful to me that they knew before I say it, hence it’s hurful for everybody in the same situation”. Intent is not in the reaction. Only the reactionee owns the positive or negative take… I don’t think op comment came across as mean or with intention to hurt. I can see how someone could TAKE it as offensive given prior experiences BUT that does not mean INTENT. They say we have 3 identities, the one we think we are, the one others thinks we are , and finally the one we actually are… sometimes other can see what takes us a while to realize. Or they see through what we think we are cleverly hiding.

    My perception: I read your reaction as more negative or at least accusatory then dialoguing, compared to the original. I appreciate you explaining but I still award point to op. I won’t deduce points to you tough.

    P.s. did you turned out to be in the spectrum ? You said "possibly"autistic.