• jnod4@lemmy.ca
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    3 days ago

    Where did you go if you feel safe sharing? I’m looking for a queer safe space to spend the last years of my life

    • SharkWeek@lemmy.blahaj.zone
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      3 days ago

      Spain, specifically Catalonia. We live in a little village in the mountains, our house cost about what a down payment on a flat would have in the UK … and people really really don’t give a shit that we’re both butch as all get out.

      Since Brexit moving here is much more difficult though, I think you’d need to have an offer of work or a pension that’s enough to live off (companies are legally required to try to hire from inside the EU where possible). Also, learning the language is very important, since there’s not much tolerance for “ex-pats” with a superiority complex.

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        1 day ago

        Also, learning the language is very important, since there’s not much tolerance for “ex-pats” with a superiority complex.

        In Catalunya, that might mean learning two languages, since some Catalans don’t like it all that much when people speak to them in Castillian, but it’s also not that wise in Spain to know only Catalan. But yeah, my experience is that people accept you for what you are, as long as you’re not an entitled fool like the ones who used to clutter the Costa del Sol.

        Good luck to you and I hope that your safe space remains safe.

        • SharkWeek@lemmy.blahaj.zone
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          22 hours ago

          I haven’t come across anyone who has given me more than a light ribbing about not speaking Catalan (I can read it just fine).

          Only something like 25% of people living in Catalunya have Catalan as their first language.