My friend is able to freely post in lemmy.world and lemmy.ml communities, which is demonstrable here
However, another friend pointed out that her posts aren’t showing up on lemmy.ml and lemmy.world
https://lemmy.ml/c/todayilearned?dataType=Post&sort=New
https://lemmy.world/c/askmen?dataType=Post&sort=New
https://lemmy.world/c/newcommunities?dataType=Post&sort=New
https://lemmy.world/c/asklw?dataType=Post&sort=New
If the posts were removed by the authorities, that would’ve been documented in the modlogs.
Despite what some may claim, she is not “instance banned” on lemmy.world or lemmy.ml. This is misinformation as she literally exudes proof of otherwise completely on demand (would a ghosted person be getting votes and commentary?)
Your “friend”, huh
Stop acting in ways that violate the social contract and stuff like this will stop happening to you. I have no idea, but I strongly suspect that it’s exactly what it looks like: You’re blocked wholesale from the instances in question in some way which doesn’t show in the modlog.
I don’t even really know how to trace back through all the hall-of-mirrors of what original behavior led to what drama led to what sanctions led to what further drama. Regardless, step 1 is to just openly ask, hey what behavior should I be doing, what should I not be doing. And then just go from there and cooperate with the other people on the network to do the first and not the second. Lemmy is pretty frickin lenient with anyone who is willing on some level to engage with that whole process openly.